How To Tell If An INFJ Likes You
In personality assessment, one of the ways of categorizing the different personalities is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, also known as MBTI. It is a questionnaire that shows the difference in how people view life and make decisions. During the test, one option is assigned to a person from each of the following categories :
1. Introversion (I) or Extraversion (E)
2. Sensing (S) or Intuition (N)
3. Thinking (T) or Feeling (F)
4. Judging (J) or Perceiving (P)
One letter is then picked from each category and joined to give a four-letter result such as ‘INTJ ‘or ‘ESFP’ – which represents that person’s personality. So, definitely, an INFJ means someone with an Introversion-Intuition-Feeling-Judging personality.
INFJs are one of the rarest personality types under the 16 Myers-Briggs Personality Types. They can be absolutely awkward, complicated, shy, and withdrawn when it comes to expressing their feelings and they are also sometimes difficult to read. How do you know if an INFJ likes you more than a friend? The following are signs an INFJ likes you:
1. Spending A Lot Of Time With You
INFJs are introverts – someone who focuses primarily on their own mind i.e most of the time, they live in their head. This shouldn’t be mistaken for selfishness though, as it comes naturally to them but that doesn’t change the fact that because of their introvertive nature they are not very sociable and friendly towards people(beyond the ordinary politeness).
Hence, they feel a lot more comfortable spending their quality time (which is indeed very important to INFJs) alone rather than hanging out with other people. But when an INFJ starts spending a lot of their “quality time” with you, then you should know you are not just “other people” to them, it’s either they really like you as a friend or probably more.
Most of the time though, they wouldn’t just walk up to you and say, ‘hey, I really want to spend more time with you’ or invite you to a date yet. INFJs prefer the more subtle methods like:
-Sitting down beside you anytime they get a chance at the cafe, bus, school, and pretty much anywhere else.
-Lingering around you hoping if they linger enough, maybe you’ll ask them on a date or offer a chance for them to spend more time with you.
-Going out of their way to help you with an assignment or chore because it’s an opportunity to spend time with you and get closer.
-Joining the same club or group as you.
2. Giving You Lots Of Attention
If you notice an INFJ being responsive and attentive to you a little (or more than a little) more than other people, they most likely have a crush on you. This includes more eye contact, more laughing at your jokes, and listening intensely anytime you say something.
An INFJ that likes you will text you almost every day about pretty much anything as long as they keep the conversation with you going. Though some INFJ wouldn’t do it as much as they want to because they don’t want to seem clingy or smothering.
An INFJ will always have this urge to help and take care of you if they like you. They’ll always want to come around and see how you’re doing, ask if you need anything. And always do their best to make your day. However, an INFJ does not necessarily think of you as more than a friend for these reasons.
3. Physical Signs And Clues
No matter how well that INFJ can hide their feelings from everyone, they can’t keep it bottled inside without some of it spilling out. This “spilling out” comes in form of nervous energy. Tripping over stuff when you’re around, spilling things, shaking hands, nervous laughs and the not-so-occasional stolen glances headed your way. All these are signs they have really hit on you, but some INFJs are actually bolder and drop those physical clues more directly.
If they touch you, that’s a big sign.
They take your hands at any opportunity
Laughs even when what you said was not really funny
Making ‘accidental’ bumps with you.
Always goes in for a hug, pat or any form of physical contact every time you part ways.
Always looking at your face.
Stays in close proximity to you.
The flirting style of the INFJ personality type is usually barely noticeable but should not be mistaken for any other thing than what it is – flirting.
4. Sharing Their Intuition With You
Intuition is a very important and key part of the INFJ personality. INFJs assume that if people see this wild part of them, people will think they’re crazy so they keep it in and try to act like other people in order to fit in.
But when they start sharing that deep and inner part of themselves with you, like letting you read their writing, see their drawing or play you a song that means a lot to them, then you really mean a lot to them. They might also let you in on some secrets or their personal life, like what’s happening with their family, things they wouldn’t talk about with just anybody.
In studies conducted during research, INFJs have expressed that in order to tell someone they like how they feel, they have to feel comfortable and safe first. They want to know if the person likes them in return and trust that at the end of the day, their feelings don’t end up getting hurt. They keep questioning themselves, “How comfortable are they with me? How honest are they? Are their intentions honorable? Will my feelings be safe with them?”
If they think you don’t like them and may turn them down, they may never approach you again as they are sensitive. But, if they sense that their feelings are safe with you, they may decide to take a chance with you. If you pass this test, then the introverted, intuitive, feeler, and judger can go from reserved, simply friendly, and polite to expressive, immersive, and loyal.